As a 60-something woman who is retired from a long, professional career, I can honestly say that retirement has been a revelation - to put it mildly. My career, while rewarding, didn't leave much time for introspection, and a lot of my socializing entailed work-related events.
Now, as I endeavour to navigate my way back to myself and a life that true to ME, I've discovered that genuine, personal relationships is crucial for living with passion and fulfillment in retirement.
Most relationships we build at work, even when they go beyond the office, still have work as their foundation. Once we step away from that world, it's surprising how quickly those ties can fade.
If you’re stuck, trying to find your way or… your new passion after retiring, here's why I believe close, personal relationships are the key.
Most of us have to LIVE WITH passion in order to FIND A passion. It’s nearly impossible to do that in a vacuum, alone. (This is. me, all businessy, circa 2016)
We need our people, our tribe around us for:
You can't overstate the value of having true friends by your side during this new journey. Their encouragement helps to navigate the ups and downs of finding your retirement footing, and their presence is vital for mental health.
As close as friends might be, you’re not the same in every way. The diversity will expose you to new perspectives, ideas, and experiences that you’d not normally consider, or even notice. These interactions will inspire you to explore new things and grow as an individual in ways you wouldn’t have otherwise.
Having a strong, close social network gives you a sense of belonging that's essential for emotional well-being. You’re not alone in this transition. Knowing that and FEELING that are two different things.
Exploring new interests doesn’t have to be a solo venture. Joining forces with friends to pursue new interests, hobbies, or volunteer work can be a game-changer. This collaboration can provide the encouragement and motivation you need to continue exploring the world and living life to the fullest.
You enter retirement with shared experiences and memories of the career you, many of the experiences and memories including people no longer a big part of your life.
It’s important to reestablish close, personal relationships after you leave work, allowing new shared experiences and memories to grow. These moments not only strengthen your connections but also enrich your life, providing you with lasting memories and stories to cherish.
Before, my life was focused on conventional, professional success. In this chapter, my focus is almost 180 degrees the opposite. I’m committed to exploring my authentic self.
Now, a few years into this “new” chapter, I've come to appreciate the importance of genuine, personal relationships in this stage of life. Also appreciated, is the difficulty of finding and establishing close, trusting relationships at this stage of life, as well.
Close trusting relationships are why I created the BOLD-Women Community. Thank you for being part of it.
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